Wednesday, 29 February 2012

COMPETITION ~ Natural Beauty Photo Comp.

{thank you Fairy Me By Tarja for this gorgeous JOLI photo}


In line with our focus on “Natural Beauty” JOLI are running a photo competition for you to show us what you believe natural beauty is.  The focus will be on real people, natural people, natural beauty.

How the comp will work:

·        Submit one photo of your depiction of natural beauty via email to JOLI Natural Skin Care telling us why you think your photo represents natural / real beauty.

·         The photo can be of you, your partner, your mum, dad, grandma etc. 

·         The photos cannot contain full uncovered frontal nudity or people in inappropriate poses.

·         The competition will be run here on our JOLI blog spot. 
 
·         Photos will be uploaded to our JOLI blog spot where people will be able to vote* and comment on the photos they feel best represent natural beauty.

·         To vote for a pic write [vote] at the beginning of your comment telling us WHY you're voting for that particular picture.  You can also tick our "reaction" boxes [Feel Good - Interesting - Inspiring**] by way of showing support for a photo whether you vote on it or not.  The [vote]s are how you vote and how we count the winning photo.  Reactions are for showing your support.

·         There will be one winner and that winner with receive $80 worth of JOLI products.

·         Competition starts NOW and ends 1st June so you have plenty of time to submit your photos, place your votes and collect votes.

The main objective of this competition – aside from the prize – is to show people how truly beautiful we all are regardless of how society judges us and regardless of what the media portrays as beauty.  To show everyone we are all gorgeous in our own way.

* JOLI will do as much as we can to keep voting even and promote all of your pictures for outside voters.  Announcements will be made on Facebook to direct our fans to vote as well.


** Tick some other reactions boxes while you're here.

Any questions?  Please email us.  Good Luck!!

Sunday, 26 February 2012

Body Image Guest Blog ~ Negative Self Talk

"“I can’t wear this, my belly looks flabby and my bottom sticks out.”……. “I can’t believe I used to think I looked good in this, look at me, I have bulges above my armpits which look like another set of breasts.”…..”Oh my god! That was my favourite dress, I look like a beached whale in this. Thank goodness someone took that photo so I could see myself how others see me”

Can you relate? Can you feel the self talk pulling you down into a 4 hour fashion dilemma? Have you cast aside your favourite clothes simply because you found out your bum really does look big in it?
Should it matter that it does? Should it matter that our body isn’t as “pretty” and “shapely” as that model in the magazine?

I don’t remember when it started for me but I suspect it was around 16 years old. In high school, being the awkward girl who preferred to hide in the library than talk fashion with her friends, I simply didn’t “like” my body shape. I still don’t like it, even though I fit back into my fancy pants which I wore before I had 4 children. I don’t like the bulge in my stomach, I hate my face, my breasts are a joke and don’t even ask me about my thighs or bottom.

And here’s the “joke”.
I dislike so much about myself HOWEVER, when I have no mirrors and don’t get photographed, I dress how I like and feel good!
So good that people comment on how good I look. Isn’t it amazing….

I see none of my “oh my god I’m fat” in photos from 5 years back. I see a young woman with a “normal” body. Just the right shape and maybe even a bit skinny for her height and rather pretty. I wish I saw the same in me now, I wish I wasn’t filled with the negative self talk when I get dressed. I wish I had the guts to look at myself in a mirror, totally nude. I wish I had more days of feeling beautiful within myself to be able to radiate beautiful to the outside. I wish I was more content with the body I was born with and not taking influences from the magazines, television, movies and gossip all around me……

I pray with all my heart that my actions are not going to burden my daughter’s perception of her own body in years to come.

Love yourself, Love your body! Simple as that, yet it is more difficult than standing up in a public place and shouting to someone.

I am slowly gaining the upper hand on my body image issues. I am finally educating myself in the art of understanding my “inner speak”. I am waking up to the fact that all women seem to have the same inner voice and that we are all a party to feeding it. Every quip about muffin tops or giggle in the room about back boobs and flabby arms, they all feed that voice inside a woman telling her she is not beautiful. We all have to band together and eradicate this self perception. For if we don’t, our daughters will have to endure the same agony we are going through."

by Tarja Kelly

You might also like Guest Blog "You're too Skinny" & "Body Dysmorphia"

Let us know if you would like to submit a guest blog on body image?

Thursday, 23 February 2012

Chemicals ~ Scientist vs Naturalist

When it comes to the types of chemicals used in skin care scientists and naturalists tend to disagree.  

Naturalists have their concerns.  How bad is fluoride?  How does it work?  What does it mean when parabens are found in cancerous tissue?  Why are toxins being found in the bloodstream of newborn babies?

Scientist: just because parabens are found in cancerous tissues doesn’t mean parabens caused the cancer.  While the gathering of parabens in cancerous tissues seems ominous (to say the least) tests and studies still do not confirm that parabens create cancer – and may have in fact congregated in that area for other reasons unknown.

Scientist: they only tested the bloodstreams of 10 babies out of an entire population of human beings.  The findings (toxins in their systems) are indeed frightening yet this is not a fair representation of the world as a whole and the impact chemicals are having on newborn babies.

For the most part the scientist’s point of view differs from the naturalist.  However scientists are highly trained in their field and like most scientists what they says sounds logical and plausible.

Ok, so let’s assume for a minute that chemicals in skin care are in such low doses they’re perfectly safe…

Would it seem JOLI are fighting a battle not worth having?  I say NO.

Let’s focus on one chemical today to make our point. 

Propylene Glycol [PG]
 
What we do know is propylene glycol in its pure form is considered so toxic it has to be handled with protective clothing: gloves, mask, boots, coveralls.  PG can only be disposed of by burying it in the ground (and one can only image what this does to our environment).  If ingested PG can cause nausea, vomiting, diarrhoea, itching, burning, scaling, hives and blistering of the skin.  PG alters skin structure allowing other chemicals to penetrate deeper into the skin, increasing the amounts of other chemicals and toxins that reach the bloodstream.  PG is also responsible for contact dermatitis.

Propylene glycol is one of the most HIGHLY used chemicals in skin care therefore each time we purchase a product with PG in it we are buying into this chemical being manufactured, handled, used and disposed of.

Why use this when there are safer alternatives?

PG is a product stabilizer and highly effective synthetic preservative.  Meaning manufactures can make huge quantities of products and ship them world wide, have them sitting in cargo holds for long periods of time and then leave the product to sit around on store shelves until a consumer decides to purchase the product.  It is a really great invention for many manufacturers.  When it comes to using alternatives the financial rewards are just not the same.  PG is cheap to use and means companies can make and sell more products than ever before with bigger profit margins.

JOLI use natural preservatives made from a blend of herbal extracts.  An effective preservative that breaks down naturally, doesn’t need to be buried in the ground to be disposed of and doesn’t have the same adverse effects on your skin.

Whether chemicals in skin care are safe or not remains an open debate for the vast majority.  So why don’t JOLI bend with the times and use chemicals in low doses?  Aside from the impact these chemicals have on the environment we do it for one main reason:


We do it for customers who cannot use mainstream products containing propylene glycol (and other synthetic or harsh chemicals).  We do it for customers who want to avoid toxic chemicals in their skin care.  We do it for consumers who are struggling to find products that do not cause contact dermatitis and other skin conditions.  We do it for babies and their tender skin.

Let the debate rage on.  We know where we stand.  What about you?

Wednesday, 22 February 2012

Lovers Massage

For the past few weeks hubby and I have been quite stressed with work, with the children and (yes I admit) with each other.  Most of our stress has to do with work (long hours, standing or sitting in the same position for long periods at a time, sore aching bodies, tired) and the rest snowballed from there.

One thing we both noticed as a result of this stress is how sore and tense our bodies had become.  All those knots in our muscles, all those joints out of place and full of air pockets.

Last night we were particularly tense so I suggested we give each other a massage.  I whipped up some massage oil and decided on Citrus Awakenings as the scent.  I didn't want something too therapeutic or too lovey dovey.  Citrus Awakenings has just the right amount of citrus to invigorate the muscles with just the right amount of floral to relax and feel good.

Sensual Massage

We both sat up right for our massages since most of our tension was in our shoulders and neck.  We took turns being massaged then giving a massage.  Neither of us are trained as a masseuse so our massages tend to be a little all over the place.

It's the touch and the intimacy that are the main things.  Letting go of the tension (especially with each other), letting go of the day, relaxing our bodies and spending some well needed quality time together.

When was the last time you gave your lover a massage or had them give you one?  I encourage you to do so more often.  Massage is a great way to relax and connect with your partner.

Saturday, 18 February 2012

The Home Manicure with JOLI

File your nails starting with the side walls making sure they are neat and straight.  Move onto the free edge filing your nails into your preferred perfect shape.  File in one direction ONLY along the free edge.
















Soak your hands in warm water sprinkled with a liberal amount of Rose Milk Bath Soak for 5-10mins.  The milk moisturises while the Epsom salts give you a boost in magnesium.  The essential oils in this bath milk calm the mind while also being beneficial to skin, anti aging, rejuvenating as well as aiding with eczema and dermatitis.





 









Use the cuticle stick to gently push overgrown cuticles back while they’re wet and malleable.  Cuticles help keep the overall health of your fingers and nails in good condition by forming a seal between the skin and the top of your nail.  Chewing, cutting and mistreating your cuticles can result in the deterioration of your nails, hands and fingers, as well as leaving you open to chronic infection.















Apply Fancy Cuticle Oil by dripping one drop on oil onto your thumb.  Using your other hand dab the drop of oil with a finger tip and apply oil to the rest of the cuticles on the first hand.  











 



Rub the oil into the cuticles thoroughly and repeat for other hand.
 














Rich Cream Moisturiser is a lovely thick hand cream that richly moisturises.  Moisturising hands and nails keep your hands and nails in excellent condition.  Moisturised nails are less susceptible to damaged and breakage and less susceptible to drying, ridges, cracking and flaking.











 

 The above products are all available in the JOLI Manicure Gift Pack.

Wednesday, 8 February 2012

Insecurities ~ Innate or man made?


Was talking with a friend the other day and they were saying that insecurities have been around since the dawn of time.  Way back when we were cave men and it was all about procreation and survival of the species.

There would have been a young attractive girl who received more attention than most with lots of suitors and men bringing back woolly mammoths as gifts for her.  Young girls would want to be like her when they grow up.  Older women might resent her because their husbands spend too much time paying attention to the younger girl than them.  Other older women might reminisce about how they were once young and beautiful with many suitors.  It makes sense that we might have felt pings of insecurity even back then. 

Then again were we too busy trying to survive to care about such things?

 When we see remote villages where TV and magazines have never reached the people you see women who seem quite at ease with themselves and their partially naked bodies.  Granted we don’t know what’s on their minds or what they’re feeling.  They walk around naked and seem to not resent the younger girl with a firmer figure.  They’re not overtly sexual and the men don’t seem to ogling the women and objectify them and for all appearances seem perfectly comfortable in their own skin.  Although there may be other forms of competition amongst the people.  Who wears the prettier beads, who applies the better face paint.  We just don’t know from what we see on documentaries.

Could it be true?  Have we always been innately insecure beings?

Let’s say that we have always been insecure.  Many would still agree we are feeling even more insecure these days due to media and advertisements, this is having an ill effect on young girls and teens as well as women.  We are bombarded with images of models, actresses and singers who are sexy, cellulite and stretch mark free, beautiful with flawless skin, striking long eye lashes and luscious locks, driving fancy cars and wearing all the latest trends.  These are the women we have to idolize, look up to and compare ourselves with.

Food for thought...

Advertisers pray on our insecurities so that they’ll sell more stuff but did they cause the insecurities?

What do you think?  What is your take on this issue?  Innate or created by our modern world?  Do you play into the hands of the media or play by your own unique rules?  How do you stop the media affecting you and your children?

Wednesday, 1 February 2012

Body Image Guest Blog ~ Body Dysmorphia

In my teens I was a stick figure and got teased for being a ‘rake’ although I didn't really understand the insult.  Family and friends told me I was pretty and I didn’t believe them because no-one at school agreed or if they did they didn’t say so.  More than that, I was aware I didn’t look like the girls in Dolly magazine so I figured those who said I was pretty were lying.  I knew my strengths; I loved acting, singing and dancing and art was my favourite class.  Even knowing my strengths and what I was good at did little to lift my self image.  I was convinced I was seriously ugly and had body dysmorphia.

By mid to late teens I was exercising an hour each night to work off body parts I thought were disproportionate (fat) to the rest of my body.  I thought my thighs were tremendous and the top of my arms were too fat (funny because now they really are).  I had what I call the ping [otherwise known as saddle bags] on my thighs and hated it because this made my body less than perfect.  I thought I was hideous to look at and unlovable and that I would never find a boyfriend because I just wasn’t good enough.  No amount of family and friends telling me otherwise made a difference. 
My view of myself began to change in my early 20s as I moved away from school and my peer’s judgments.  I began to date and found that boys liked me.  They complimented me on my art, my talents, my looks, my body and some even complimented me on my smarts.  I began to realize my warped view of myself was just that - a warped view of myself.  And what my peers had thought about me wasn't how the outside world thought of me.  No longer exercising an hour each night, I was keeping fit through dancing and martial arts.  I felt great, looked great, I was fit and healthy and was feeling positive about myself even though I still didn’t look like the people on TV or in magazines.  I still had my ugly days!

In my early 30's I got pregnant and I took this time to eat like I’d never eaten before.  Big mistake.  I went from obsessing over my body to neglecting it and I gained a whopping 16kg.  Thinking I’d lose the weight once I’d had the baby, it took a while and I did lose some weight, and then I had another baby and the weight was even harder to shift.  The will power I had in my teens and early 20s disappeared.

After liking myself in my 20’s I find it impossible to feel that way now that I’m older and bigger (over 10kg heavier).  I didn't bounce back after three weeks or even three years after having my last baby and I'm heavier than I've ever been and too chubby.  Also I'm constantly worried that the media's images trick my husband (they way it tricks me) into thinking I should look like those women (superstars) and that scares me because I'll never be what the media tells me I should be.  I'll never be good enough.

[Christina Aguilera in the same boat, having gone from super skinny to curvaceous]
It is a constant struggle to remember that looks and body image don't define me.  What is underneath, who I am, what I’ve accomplished and what I'm good at matter just as much.  And also that I’m not as bad as I think.  My husband still finds me attractive even though I look nothing like the women in media and nothing like my younger self - I struggle to understand his attraction to me especially now that I've gained weight.

I constantly think about what if I still have body dysmorphia and don't realise it?  What if I'm still not fat just like I wasn't as a teen and I just can't see it?  When will my body image stop ruling my life?

If I could give young girls (and boys) advice I would say: like and love yourself because you don't realise how attractive others think you are and you will find love regardless of what you and your peers say.

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You might also like to read Guest Blog "Negative Self Talk" & "You're Too Skinny"

[We are accepting guest blogs regarding how women (and men) perceive themselves, their body image, their looks and what influences their opinions of themselves]